20 January 2015

Whatever

“Sometimes you make choices in life and sometimes choices make you.” ~ Gayle Forman, If I Stay

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I saw this quote the other day and I thought it made so much sense. But then I started to think about it, and I realized that life and the choices we think we are making – it is not that simple.

I can choose to let whatever stays to stay, for whatever comes to come, and for whatever leaves to leave, but what if what comes is not good for me, or that which needs to go, stays, and it is detrimental to me? I realize that most of my life, I have been trying to hang on to those very same people that eventually left me, whether they be lovers, friends, or even family, and those that I have tried to push out of my life, such as the drunken ex, at one time or another, refused to leave. Do we really have a choice? Or do we just think we do? I think that we do not really have a choice as to who God (or whatever powerful entity you deem superior) brings into our life, and that the only thing we can control is how we react to whatever comes our way.

But this way of thinking has made me very non-reactive. I am almost nonchalant whenever I meet someone new. “Eh, if they want to stay in my life, they will, and if they do not, well, then ‘sayonara!’”

Can I really continue like this, to be dispassionate about whatever and whomever comes and stays in my life? Is this really how we are supposed to live our lives?

I guess I’ve been doing it all wrong all along.

1 comment:

  1. I think the spirit of acceptance is the main thing, rather than non-reaction. Your wants and needs factor into life too :)

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