19 April 2012


That's what birthdays were. Days when you found out where you stood. Who was on your side and who wasn't. Nothing to do with how old you were.” ~ Rupert Thomson, The Five Gates of Hell

One week ago, I quietly slipped into my forty-first year of life.

There was no big party. No big presents. No candles. There wasn't even a cake.

I remember prior birthdays -- last year, two years ago, five years ago, ten years ago... and all I can take away from those days is how deeply unhappy I was. I was always yearning for something, searching for some deeper meaning to my life, and hoping to grasp onto some semblance of happiness.

I realize that this year, for the first year in God only knows how long, I was happy on my birthday.

After forty-one years, I want what I have, and I have what I want: love, strong family bonds, true friends, and a newly-found love for myself.

I am not quite where I want to be, but I am getting closer.

God willing, I will get there.


  1. happy b-day nova :)

  2. You look stunning!!!!!!!!!!!

    It looked like you had a meaningful birthday N. Kisses from Manila. I wow, I am shaking my head here.

    I realized I have "known" you for quite some time to feel this happy for you.

    Love's really fracking amazing.


  3. Happy belated birthday! =)

  4. happy belated bday! and you look great Nova! you must tell me your secret!

  5. Happy belated birth day Nova. You look and sound fabulous! Must have been all that great advice I gave you :-)


  6. Nice to visit after too long and see your lovely smile...


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